Many people experience unsolicited or undesired sexual advances. From subtle (and nonetheless unwanted) advances to sex without consent. Some people are sexually abused as early as in childhood.
We use the word abuse when you had no choice regarding the sexual contact, whether because you were too young, were intoxicated, there was an imbalance of power between you and the other person, or you didn’t want to do something but had trouble expressing that at the time.
Abuse can cause a lot of confusion. Did your body react in an aroused manner even though you were genuinely averse to it? Shame is unavoidable and guilt is common. You may have become traumasexual. Once this happens you can no longer freely engage in sexual relations. Or are you troubled by compulsive sexual behaviour, or behaviour involving pushing boundaries (or even overstepping them)? Still others have stopped enjoying their sexuality altogether.
The method used to work through the abuse, has been developed by Peter John Schouten (www.seksueelmisbruik.nl) and you will find more information there. In Dutch you can find useful resources on this page: https://excetra.nl/.